Genuine Love

“Geniune Love can overcome quarrels, depression and even stress.”

Genuine love is the most extraordinary and healing experience that we can have in this life. 

To have a disagreement is normal, no two people see the world with the same eyes. We are unique in the way we were brought up • we inherit so many tendencies from our forefathers, impressions from within the womb of our mother, childhood experiences that had shaped us, the environment, culture and people we have related to, among many other things • that’s why we can never be the same.

A great relationship is not about sameness, it’s about oneness.

When we have the intelligence to put the relationship on top of the idea that we are quarreling for in moments of disagreement; when we are ready to let go of hurt or disappointment to keep holding on to the most important • the relationship • and protect it, then those moments of friction cannot really impact the relationship much.

Whenever we are by the side of someone who is feeling low or lost, and we are able to uplift and encourage the other, this great expression of genuine compassion becomes one of the most beautiful feelings of connection that we are longing for in a relationship. 

Genuine love happens when your sense of Self has expanded to include the other as yourself and you feel the suffering of the other as your own. 

You become one with the other, and often times whenever you are low the other is high and vice-versa. Life plays out this beautiful harmony to create balance.

Especially during these modern times, where stress seems to be the currency, having a loving relationship by your side is the best way to find inner peace, to feel connected, nurtured and to share the beauty of life.

Genuine love always wins, no matter what is the challenge in front. 

Genuine love will overcome everything and make you stronger, creating a long-lasting relationship that will bring infinite amounts of joy into your life.

Becoming aware that in difficult moments we tend to project the judgment of what we don’t like in the other as something fixed and absolute • the mind tends to believe the other will never change in the future • will help you reduce the temptation to make important decisions in moments of suffering. 

It’s never a good idea to arrive at a conclusion when things are heated up, usually, we tend to regret them, and even if a decision is needed then it is better to take the time to sleep on it.

In reality, we are all the time changing, we can never be the same because we are a result of so many forces coming together, actually infinite influences make you who you are in this very moment. 

Nothing in this Universe can be fixed and absolute, neither do we. It’s just a trick of the mind to project the actual problem ‘about the other’ into the future and make it permanent. This is one of the reasons why people give up in relationships and one of the biggest deceptions of the mind.

If there is genuine love, you will overcome even your biggest fears.

All love starts with loving yourself. Unless there is self-love we cannot give love to others. Once you have seen the depths of your being and accepted yourself as you are • with the good and the bad • then naturally you start loving yourself.

Relationships are a mirror to magnify both your greatness and your weaknesses. The presence of a loved one in your life is an extraordinary blessing, but when you discover love for yourself, true transformation and growth happen.

One who has discovered self-love, whether having a partner or not, will be able to enjoy completely every moment of this life.

29 January 2020 • Written by Daniel Bellone.